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Mother's day depressing

May 11th, 2015 at 05:24 am

So my mothers day was disappointing.My baby boy woke me up with breakfast in bed,Which was really nice.He said happy mothers day.But he didn't make me a card.Daughters
did not wish me a happy mothers day till late afternoon.Then mt daughter text me and says they had some leftover flowers fro church I got for you,I said great.She comes home at 11:00 pm and I say wheres the flowers? She says oh I forgot them at friends house,really?Other daughter says before going to bed oh I plan on getting you something but I don't want to tell you what.Yep ,I'm still waiting on my Christmas present.What I really wanted was some house cleaning as a present.I hear someone on the phone ask my husband what he got me and I hear him say why would I buy her something? she's not my mom.Then Hubby goes to lowe's and buys 60.00 worth of plants after I mention someone locally has tons of four different flowers if we dig them up.Hubby says I don't want to go dig them up.Of course ultimately have my self to blame. They are just too self absorbed.They all volunteer and go mission trips. I think they just take me for granted---stupid teenagers.

7 Responses to “Mother's day depressing”

  1. VS_ozgirl Says:

    Reney I'm in the Mother's Day sucks club too at the moment, so I feel your pain - the only difference is I'm the daughter not the mother! (My mother over the years has distanced herself from us & now that my sister has a baby - first grandchild- she has decided to pass Mother's Day onto the next generation, meaning she no longer celebrates it. First I said fine & then yesterday I sent her a happy Mother's Day picture saying "thank you for not abandoning me in the deep blue ocean as a child" with a picture of a fish. No response. ) All day yesterday I was seeing "happy Mother's Day to my awesome mum" and happy pictures on Facebook while I was thinking my mum doesn't really want anything to do with me. That's life & these things happen, you can't always get what you want... I just dealt with it by thinking that there are many people worse off than me who never even got to know their mothers or had awful mothers, and she wasn't awful. But that that was then & this is now, and in the now there's not much there & even less interest so now I have to distance myself, because she doesn't feel the same way, she doesn't care anymore.
    Teenagers can be bratty & self-absorbed (I was) but once they hit their mid-twenties they change & Mother's Day should be good for you then, because they then really appreciate their Moms. Keep your chin up, things will get better.

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    If you have high expectations of Mother's Day, I feel one will always be disappointed. It really is just marketing gimmick at this point. I hope you can just let it go and move on.

  3. Stephanie Says:

    I'm in the club too! No breakfast in bed (husband could sleep the night before so slept in on Sunday), no greeting from the kids. When I asked, where are my card, I was handed a half written (made at school) card from my 8 year old, the 9 year wrote something on a piece of paper and said she forgot the card at school & nothing from my husband ("I'm not his mother.") If going with the theory that I'm not his mother, the least he could do is make sure the kids have something for me (eg take the kids to the store to buy cards.) I was/am so hurt because I know when something is important to my husband, he makes sure it gets done. SO, the message I got is that I'm not important to him.

    So Sunday was a very teary day. I pulled it together enough to go to my parents home and spend part of the time with my 82yr old mother. I made sure she had a card and presents.

    I guess next year, I either need to lower my expectations significantly or make the celebration myself.

    Thank you for letting me vent.

  4. snafu Says:

    Sorry you were both disappointed. I'm another mother who never bought into the concept of Mother's Day. As a daughter, I was fortunate to have an awesome mom who knew she was adored 24/7. As a mom I loved the cards DSs made at school and their efforts to make brunch. We all agreed to keep these commercial events 'home made.'
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    This year we invited friends to bring their kids and join us for a casual dinner. Their family had enjoyed the day at the park and it's Thomas the Train' program. It's very 'hands on,' the children get to ride the trains around the very large park twice included in admission. It was so much fun listening to the kids recounting nearly every minute of their day on trains, inspecting the trains, what they saw on the train, what the different trains represented, the story-line of the trains, watching the trains pass at different places at the park and how other children reacted to the train events..

    Their dad helped me with the last of cooking and plating and showed off his skills at carving a watermelon into interesting shapes that we all enjoyed for dessert.

  5. Ima saver Says:

    I am 70 years old and I have never gotten a card in my life! I know how you feel.

  6. Jenn Says:

    I'm with CCF. I only got a "Happy Mother's Day" but I didn't expect more - the weather was beautiful and it was a relaxing day. I don't want the kids to spend money on me - that's not important.

    Generally speaking, allowing your happiness to be determined by the actions of others is setting yourself up.

    Make TODAY a great one Reney!

  7. rob62521 Says:

    I am so sorry you had a disappointing Mother's Day. I don't know what to say other than I empathize with you. Hope today is better.

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